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Parenting

Socialization Of Children

Childhood is a unique time period.

“Socialization is the process whereby individuals, especially children, become functioning members of a particular group and take on the values, behaviors and beliefs of the groups other members.”

Carolyn R.

Primary socialization for a child is very important because it sets the groundwork for all future socialization. Play dates and playground trips may seem like just a routine way to keep your little ones busy, but socialization is an important developmental tool. Every interaction your kid has helps him learn language skills, ways to cope with emotions and how to work within social norms. The concepts may seem technical, but socialization and healthy child development go together like tea and biscuits.

The Role of the Family

Family provides the first social group to the children i.e. the extended family (grandparents, uncles and aunts, and cousins.)

In order to be an active part of our child’s social group, as parents it’s our responsibility to understand the needs of our children, communicate with them, nurture them and most importantly give them little space. This space gives children an extra comfort which helps them to communicate more openly with you.

Peers and Identity

In adolescence, your child will be more strongly influenced by his peers. Socially, spoken and unspoken codes of conduct, dress and speech are shaped by your kid’s friends and classmates. Developmentally, they’ll struggle with either “fitting in” or being true to their “own identity”. 

Your child’s peer group is likely to influence his beliefs and behavior. Adolescents tend to spend more time with their peers and have less adult supervision.

It’s somewhat true that when we think about influence of peers on our child, initially the misbehavior of your child comes in front. Whether it’s the way they talk to you (parents), prefer to spend more time alone or with friends, etc. however there are many advantages to it.

# They serve as a source of information. They give perspective to your child’s viewpoints.

#They serve as a base for practicing adulthood by decreasing dependency on parents and giving a sense of self-sufficiency by being a part of a larger social network.

# They can help your child to form their identity. Although, identity formation is a lifelong process, but with peers your child acquires the basic sense of self.

There comes a point where we as parents need to reduce our level of decision making for our children so they become independent and self sufficient members of the vast social network, the society.

Media affecting socialization

The mass media are another agent of socialization. Television shows, movies, popular music, magazines, Web sites, and other aspects of the mass media influence our political views; our tastes in popular culture; our views of women, people of color, and gays; and many other beliefs and practices.

When we talk about the little ones (3-4 years old), sitting anywhere in the world have learnt English language British accent just by watching the famous cartoon “Peppa Pig”. They watch carefully and learn new ways of playing, behaving and most importantly, verbal communication as they repeat what they listen. So parents, keep an eye on the young ones and keep a limit to the screen time as it’s not only the good that they learn from the screen.

In the end I would just like to say that socialization is a life long process as we keep meeting new people who leave their effect on us, but how as parents we introduce the concept of socialization to our children is what matters the most.

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Mental Health Well Being

Acceptance v/s Ignorance

Acceptance

What does it mean to you? What thoughts come to your mind when you read this word — Accepting yourself? Accepting another person? Accepting a situation?…. It can be a long list sometimes.

Acceptance simply means GIVING CONSENT to what is being offered and moving ahead.

When we talk about people — ourselves or others, it’s very important to understand that every individual is different, every individual is unique. We cannot judge them as they have their own special mind and more importantly we should be non-judgmental about ourselves as well. Something that is wrong from our perspective can be right for the other’s and vice-versa.

When we talk about a situation people generally say that it’s easier to give advice — “to move ahead…” but not as easy to practically apply it. However, the fact is that till the time we won’t accept the situation, we won’t find a solution with an open mind and we will keep IGNORING IT.

IGNORANCE is running away whereas, ACCEPTANCE is making a deal with it and living life with a bang.

We have often heard the phrase “if you want to live happily, delete the things or people that give you stress in life”. This can be seen with two perspectives:

First is IGNORANCE: Most of us prefer this. We don’t want to discuss about it, we don’t introspect, we don’t want to understand our feelings about it. We just want to run away from it.

Second is ACCEPTANCE: We discuss it, we introspect and understand our feelings. We accept the fact and then deal with it or delete it.

Ignorance can have a relapse, after all how much can we run from it? Whenever we will come across that thing or person, the stress will come back. However, when we have accepted the fact and deal properly with, it won’t affect us, no matter how many times we cross it.

Acceptance and Change

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Acceptance does not mean liking something or being happy with the way it is. It means we simply are taking it for what it is.

When we accept, it helps us to face (ourselves, others an even events) . It helps us to take decisions (which can be life altering).  It helps us to be strong (mentally and emotionally) and stand with what we decide as we have given it our time. Thus, it helps us to “change“.

It is rightly quoted “Acceptance is the road to all change.”

Bryant McGill

We have to learn to take charge of our life. We need to keep important and meaningful people and things with us. We need to stop hurting ourselves and others and try not to be affected by other’s. We need to Accept.

ALWAYS REMEMBER

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Home Decor

How to Make Your Home Feel More Luxurious in Budget

Our environment has an impact on us, our thinking and behavior. Therefore, we want our house to be our reflection. By giving attention to a few key details, home decor ideas and home decor items, we can make our house look more impressive and luxurious in budget.

home is not a place its a feeling.

Learn to do thoughtful purchasing for home decor items. Create a world that is a reflection of your inner self. Always chose quality over quantity. Train your mind to recognize home decor ideas that feel luxurious.

Here are a few tips that may help you make your house look luxurious and expensive, in budget.

WALL DECOR IDEAS.

Let the walls speak.

#tip 1: Make a wall of memory. Pictures always remind us of good times. A wall full of photo frames is masterpiece, where we can enjoy the good old days.

#tip 2: Hang quotes. It’s a very classic home décor idea. It can be any simple, strong statement. The quote can be your reflection, your idea of living.

#tip 3: DIY family paintings. This can include hand impressions, or signatures of the family members.

#tip 4: Choose mirrors. They give an illusion of big space. Add the l-a-r-g-e ones to the bedroom for high impact.

wall decor ideas

“Make your home as comfortable and attractive as possible and then get on with living. There’s no more to life than decorating”

Albert Hadley

FLOOR DÉCOR IDEAS.

Say yes to luxurious feeling fabrics. Look for textiles that are soft to touch.

Use statement pieces like big living room rugs. You can opt for soft and furry doormats for bathrooms and bedrooms.

Plush adds to luxury

FRESH FLOWERS MAKES YOUR DAY.

Fresh flowers uplifts the mood of the entire space. It gives a welcoming feeling to the guests. Flowers make you feel pampered and abundant. You can keep bouquets or a flower in the…

  • Entryway
  • Next to your bed
  • Dining table
  • Guestroom

A glass vase or master showpiece with fresh flowers, when placed thoughtfully gives a luxurious feeling.

CHOSE THE PALETTE WISELY.

Home décor is a mind game of choosing the right color palette. You should choose classic and timeless colors. A neutral palette forms a strong base to build upon. Here are some tips:

#tip 1: Choose single neutral paint color for majority of your home, preferably a light shade. This gives uniformity and makes the room look bigger.

#tip2: Say ‘no’ to too many colors in a place. Choosing home décor items in a handful colors adds extra depth in the space.

#tip 3: Use gem tones (emerald green, ruby red, sapphire blue, citrine yellow, etc). It gives luxurious feeling, it adds the punch.

#tip 4: Love dark shades? Embrace them. You can try an accent wall (feature wall) in a deep rich color. The contrast against light colors can feel high-end.

Accent wall

METALLICS ADDS GLAMOUR

Say ‘yes’ to the dazzling metallic, it will brighten-up your space. A metallic prop adds glamour to the dull space. May it be a vase, candle stand, photo frame, accent table, lighting, etc. it adds dimension to the space.

MINIMUM IS THE NEW SUFFICIENT

“Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication”

Leonardo Da Vinci

Keeping your home clear of clutter enhances the way you look at it.

#tip 1: Invest in fully covered shoe racks. A sleek, beautiful piece will enhance your entryway and hide your shoes completely.

#tip 2: Clear your surfaces as much as possible. It will instantly make your home look luxurious.

#tip 3: Choose covered storage over open shelving. Whether it’s the kids play area, bathroom storage or kitchen cupboards. It will hide away all the extra stuff.

It will give a tidy look to the house and you can choose among the various home decor ideas for the type of storage you’ll prefer.

Always take inspired actions. Browse the internet, search for ideas on pintrest. Look for budget or discounted options. Keep a designated place for all the items. Invest in master/statement showpieces and keep clearing the clutter.

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Emotional well-being Well Being

7 Ways To Manage Your Emotions

No matter whatever we do in life, our emotions affect our reactions and our decision most of the time.

We always treasure our feelings- the pleasure of a mother’s touch, the joy of going on a vacation, or the fun with friends. Even negative emotions are important, such as the sadness, the anger, the fear that overcomes us in an unexpected or an unknown situation, or the guilt or shame toward someone.

The ability to realize, willingly accept, and successfully control feelings in oneself (and at times others) is known as the emotion management.

managing emotions

Why is managing emotions important?

Emotions can play an important role in how we think and behave. The emotions we feel each day can compel us to take action and influence the decisions we make about our lives, both large and small.

Emotions can be temporary, such as annoyance at a co-worker, or long-lasting, such as sadness of loosing someone.

Many of us seek to experience the feelings of satisfaction, joy or pride when we accomplish something. At the same time, we also work very hard to avoid strong negative feelings.

Our emotions greatly influence our decision. Even in situations where we believe our decisions are guided purely by logic and rationality, emotions play a key role.

Emotions Influence Thoughts

Emotions are also connected to thoughts and memories. Thus, emotions serve as the link that connects the facts in our minds. That is why it is easier to remember happy thoughts when happy, and angry times when angry.

Emotions influence our thinking processes either constructively, or not. It is difficult to think critically and clearly when we feel intense emotions, but easier when we are not overwhelmed with emotions.

Emotions allow us to understand each other

Being able to interpret and react to the emotions of others is essential. It allows us to respond appropriately and build deeper and more meaningful relationships with our friends, family, and loved ones.

We can interpret these emotions through body language, such as various facial expressions connected with the particular emotions they are experiencing.

Here are some ways by which you can control and manage emotions.

  1. Accepting your emotion

You can manage your emotion only when you know what you are dealing with. Acceptance is very important, it helps you to realize, give you a site and motivate you to cope with overwhelming emotions.

Nobody knows your emotions and feelings better than yourself and in order to understand it, you need to ask yourself “WHY?”. Why am I feeling this way? Is it due to some recent event or any past event?

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Acceptance v/s Ignorance

  • Give yourself some time

In order to understand your emotion better you need to introspect. Spend some time with yourself, meditate, think – is it right to feel this way?

Try to re-frame your thoughts and think more positively.

  • Write it down

Noting things down helps you to release your emotions, it’s a way to express yourself.  A diary or journal can help. Moreover, if you’ll not release your emotions it will start reflecting in your body by giving you physical pains and aches.

Thus, noting daily events can help you manage your emotions and feelings about things, about people around you and about events that you like or dislike.

  • Go outside

Everyone needs a break! At times the events around you are so overpowering and overwhelming that you need to step out. Go for a walk or go for a vacation. Spend some time with yourself and your loved ones (family, friends or pets).

  • Stay connected

When you are feeling low or overwhelmed, spending time with your loved ones boosts your mood. A little chit-chat, a loud laughter refreshes you and you are able to manage your emotions better.

Moreover, when you share your problem with someone, consider it to be half solved as sharing broadens your site about the event and helps you to deal with your emotion in a better way.

  • Make choices

Make healthy choices, follow a routine. Take care of yourself- have a good sleep, exercise regularly, eat healthy food (include some cheat days), re-indulge in long lost hobbies or develop new ones. All this will boost up you mood, positively charge your emotions and feelings and help you to feel confident.

  • Look for a brighter side

Life is a rollercoaster, there are ups and downs. Nothing is persistent in this world, no time is the same. Whenever you feel over powered with negative emotions and thoughts, you should know that this time will also pass and the brighter days are standing ahead.

You should replace negative thoughts with positivism, it will help you to manage your emotions and take better decisions.